There are so many opinions out there about one of the most natural, seemingly innate activities known to mankind… breastfeeding. It can be really frustrating for new moms to know what to believe in terms of what breastfeeding should look like. Part of the reason we have so many breastfeeding issues in our culture is because our minds interfere with an instinctual process. This blog post could be 100 times the length that it is, but we will save some subject matter for another day 🙂 Here, I try to simplify the major philosophies of breastfeeding for you, so that you can consider them and then make your own best choice.
Let’s start with some agreed-upon basics:
1. Before there were clocks, there were babies. And human babies’ biological makeup, genes, and therefore general behavior, haven’t changed too much over hundreds of years.
2. If babies are created with reflexes as newborns that are supposed to indicate hunger, chances are, we should be paying attention to those cues:
– mouth opening like a baby bird,
– rooting toward what he thinks is a nipple,
– especially active limbs
– sucking on fist
– fussing or crying (usually a late sign)
Now that we’ve gotten past the general facts, let’s look at a couple different philosophies on breastfeeding.
Please note, I personally believe that a combination of philosophies might be ideal for your family. My own baby, for instance, got to an age where he seemed to need more structure in his day, and planned breastfeeding times helped provide that. Or perhaps you are going back to work, and your nanny needs specific times to feed your baby so that she can watch the other five kids she’s caring for at the same time, etc….
In Baby-led feeding, mama generally follows baby’s cues and feeds him when he is showing the hunger signs.
The following books outline well the biological makeup of human babies and their mamas’ breasts, and FROM THERE, give guidelines for how breastfeeding works best.
“Breastfeeding Made Simple” is exactly what it sounds like, which is why I like it 🙂 In addition to what I mentioned previously, Mohrbacher and Kendall-Tackett’s book gives practical knowledge, like positions to try, and what to do if you have cracked nipples, etc.
“The Happiest Baby on the Block” by Dr. Harvey Karp is a great overall newborn guide. He takes us back to how parents have been interacting with babies for thousands of years, and explains biologically why this works.
I would recommend both of these books to new parents. The “Happiest Baby on the Block” also has a well-known DVD version. The book includes some reasoning, history, and cultural comparisons that the DVD does not.
Now, a very different philisophy on breastfeeding is based on the book “On Becoming Baby Wise” by Gary Ezzo, which was popular in the 90s and is still around in certain circles today. I would describe this as parent-led feeding: mom and dad decide when the baby should eat, by the clock.
Hm… You may be thinking, “That seems a little contradictory to what was said earlier about babies over the last centuries…. Furthermore, I think if someone told me I wasn’t hungry when I was trying to grab a sandwich, that person might just get a black eye!” 😉
An important observation I’ve made is that most (certainly not all) of the mamas who follow Baby Wise while their babies are newborns end up having supply issues. Your breasts are not made to go by the clock at that early stage. Your baby is growing and will need more and more milk as he gets bigger, so he is designed to breastfeed often (and during growth spurts, that might be every 30 minutes!) so that your supply can keep up with his growth.
(Sidenote, since this may be the only time I discuss Baby Wise by name — if you are one who often touts the Baby Wise book, you may be interested in looking into Gary Ezzo’s checkered history.)
But perhaps you choose to combine philosophies as baby gets a bit older. Another example of this: baby is 6 months old and still breastfeeding through the night, so the parents decide to gradually wean baby off of nighttime feelings so everyone can get more rest. Part of the Baby Wise philosophy is helping baby establish a routine, which is an important part of growing up.
I hope this has been helpful, albeit brief. Please let me know if you have thoughts or questions!